If you are reading this, you may be struggling with heart-stopping thoughts about an affair, or related concerns that are making your mind race:

~ You may be reading this because you believe that something is wrong in your relationship and you're confused about how your relationship seems right now;

~ You are here because of your partner's recent disclosure, and you're on a roller-coaster from profound numbness to anger;

~ Or your affair was just revealed - by you or someone else - and you feel guilty or self-defensive.

An affair is a relational trauma. The betrayed partner usually experiences shock and anger; the betraying partner's response is variable, often involving clear or hidden shame. Generally, the betrayed partner wants to know "why?" And in fact, that pain-laden question may actually be the first step toward repair.

What do you want to do next?

Couples therapy is the best route to lasting repair. When an affair is a factor, a couple's work is two-fold: process the pain of the affair itself, and then explore the "why" - what was going on in your relationship that "allowed" this to happen?

The challenge in this work is to explore the "why" without the perception that the affair is being "excused" in some way.

Processing the pain of an affair is emotionally challenging for both of you. Couples therapy can offer a safe place for you to work through the relational trauma of an affair. Therapy offers you a solid chance to reach a new understanding. Consistent with your mutual goals, therapy can create positive, permanent changes in your relationship.

Call or email me with your contact information. We will discuss your situation and, when you are ready, schedule an appointment.

Telephone: 843-271-4771

Email: jbsayreLMFT@gmail.com